Relationship Problems
“I found out my boyfriend had a child after dating. What should I do?”
He is my first boyfriend.
I think the first thing you should do is try to clear your head.
This won’t be an easy thing to process, but it is important for you to do your best to act rationally. Allowing your emotions to control you from here on out is the last thing you need.
Next — and this is just what I would do if I were you — get out of that relationship.
Hear me out. This guy is your first boyfriend and he had a child. Presumably, you are not the mother. That means he not only cheated on you, but he also impregnated his affair partner. That’s too much for anyone.
He may be your first and you may genuinely love him, but you cannot excuse cheating. The trust is gone and it may never come back. Don’t be foolish enough to think that “things will get better.”
Maybe, but you need to ask yourself a few questions.
One, are you sure you can completely forgive him? Two, are you sure you can step in and be a stepmother to his child? Three, are you even certain that this relationship will last if you give him a second chance now?
Hard as it may be, your best course of action is to cut your losses and move on. He made his bed. Now, he has to sleep on it, but that doesn’t mean you have to.
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