LOVING ONESELF
“Why is it so difficult to love someone who doesn’t love him/herself?”
Because being receptive to love has to start with them.
Most people who don’t love themselves are that way because they don’t really know what love feels like or is supposed to feel like. They have an idea, but to experience it first hand is what makes it count.
It may also have something to do with a childhood experience (growing up without the love and support of parents/family), a traumatic relationship (they were betrayed), or they were simply let down their whole life.
Without the real and genuine experience, they tend to react differently when someone does show them love and affection. They don’t know what to do with it.
Some find it difficult to express their love to their partner because they have a different love language, so imagine expressing your love to someone who doesn’t even love themselves.
This means that no matter how loving and affectionate your words, actions, and intentions may be, it’s likely that they won’t be able to internalize it the same way.
It’s a trying journey, but if you truly love the person, you have to add in a lot more patience and support in the process. After all, isn’t that what love is all about? In this case, you might have to love them more.
