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“How can you stop being jealous of your boyfriend’s past relationships and friends?”

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First thing’s first: Is there a valid reason for your jealousy?

It’s one thing to be jealous for no apparent reason, and it’s entirely another to have actual justification for feeling like your relationship is being threatened by your partner’s exes and close friends.

If there’s a valid reason, then that’s a separate issue. You’ll need to have a proper discussion with your boyfriend about that so you can have him acknowledge your feelings as well as give him an opportunity to explain the situation to you.

But if you believe your jealousy is often irrational and you want to be able to work on it to build a healthy relationship with your partner, there’s a few things you can try:

• Get to know his friends and make an effort to connect with them.
• If your boyfriend is comfortable with it, you can talk to him about his past relationships so you know the details instead of being left wondering.
• Be honest about your feelings and establish open communication with your partner.
• Remind yourself every now and then of the reasons your boyfriend loves you and chose to be with you.

Originally published on Quora

How can you stop being jealous of your boyfriend's past relationships and friends?