DATING ADVICE
Why Dating in Your 30s Works Better for Men
There are some advantages to it.
Dating in your 30s can be a challenge. For most people, the dating pool has shrunk down to a handful of available candidates.
Finding single women around your age group or near your location can be near impossible unless you sign up for a dating app. But even that might not be enough to get your hopes up.
Dating in your 30s — this particularly works great for men. There are some advantages to it.
You’re more likely to be calmer compared to when you were in your 20s. You no longer feel compelled to follow over-the-top romantic gestures just for attention or do silly stunts that might likely get you hurt.
You’re more likely to focus on your partner’s personality rather than their looks. And you’re more likely to work on the conflicts that come up instead of reacting first.
Of course, some women in their 20s are open to dating men outside their age group. Compared to most men in their 20s, those in their 30s have their life put together and their habits and personality have already settled in.
That means they have already reached the potential of who they are.
The acceptable age to date younger women is 22 and above. Any age lower than that is against societal norms and should just be avoided.
Aside from their age, women also mature faster, which allows them to know what they want from a relationship early on.
More confident and relaxed
It is easy to get distracted when you’re in your first relationship. You get caught up in the honeymoon phase where both you and your partner are emotionally invested.
But here’s the thing, will you still like them after the honeymoon phase is over? Or will they start taking you for granted?
Dating several different women throughout your dating career can hone your emotional maturity. That is to say, the more experience you have with women, the more you know what to expect.
An advantage men have in their 30s is their ability to remain calm and relaxed even after the honeymoon phase is over. They already have several relationships under their belt (and suffered the worst of them). They know what to expect when jumping into a relationship with someone new.
Unlike women, you don’t need to hurry or worry about your biological clock. You remain fertile even when you get older. While this is a great thing, it also means that if you plan to have children in the future, you would also need to consider if your partner is willing to have children or not.
Know what you want
You may have a long history of dating many different women. You’ve suffered through many emotional storms and conflicts which led to either a breakup or taking some time off.
As you grow older, you learn a few hard lessons when it comes to relationships with women. But you haven’t given up hope in finding love with the right person. So you jump back into the dating pool.
This time, you are more likely to consider taking things slow. You may want to let your partner know early on what you want from the relationship or if you just want to keep things casual.
You want to avoid needless conflicts or dramas. Being honest and open to communication is what’s more important to you than chasing after the feel-good high of being in a relationship. It becomes less about aesthetics and more about practicality.
Being clear on what you want from a relationship early on saves time and effort.
Most women are mature enough to understand where you’re coming from and even grateful to you for bringing up the topic. As for most women, their main concern is to settle down with someone they want to spend the rest of their lives with.
Better understanding of yourself
In your 20s, you may have had a girlfriend because she looks pretty or she is fun to be around. But the more time you spend with her, the more you realize your new interests and goals don’t exactly align with each other.
Both of you are still figuring out exactly who you are. Maybe she’s pursuing her own goals, and unfortunately, they don’t align with yours.
So now what?
This is what happens when you grow up. You become more aware of what goals are important to you and how you want to achieve them. You slowly build your career and even start taking an interest in how to properly manage your finances.
Unfortunately, this means letting go of many things. Like late night partying, booze binge sessions, and even hanging out with friends. This includes romantic relationships.
When you are in your 30s, you have a better understanding of yourself and some truths about life. You’ve experienced enough patterns to recognize them at first glance and do something about them. Or at least work on them.
Should You Wait Until You’re 30 to Start Dating?
Because of the pressure of Western societal culture, many men and women start dating as early as high school. It is a popular trend for young people to hook up or have a fling while they’re still young.
There’s nothing wrong with it, but this often leads to a stormy separation, heartbreak, or simply ghosting the other person. Either someone does something stupid, like cheating, or a big fight comes up and both parties decide to break off the relationship in anger.
Nevertheless, dating someone in your 20s is vastly different from dating in your 30s. Goals change.
There is less concern about appearances and more focus on whether the other person’s interest and goal align with yours.
Needless to say, dating in your 30s is known to be better for men, and we don’t need science to prove it.
It’s more about experience, but it’s also about who you choose to pursue.
If you’ve recently become single and are looking for a relationship, why not try expanding your search into international territories? Who knows, you might just find love in the most unexpected places.
